We had recently lost our grandmother a few months earlier. It’s always hard to lose a loved one, but it seems even harder when you have such a big day of celebration ahead. I knew she would be there in spirit, but I wanted to do something special (especially for my Mother). My only thought was, I don’t want whatever we decide to do to upset anyone since it was still so new. So, we went for subtle.
My sister’s wedding was covered in ivory roses (YES! BREATHTAKINGLY GORGEOUS!!) So, we had the florist bring one single rose to the bridal suite before ceremony. I had printed on gold paper “We know you would be here today if Heaven weren't so far away. In loving memory of Murphy” (Murphy was her nickname, she was a hoot!) We then attached it with a ribbon to the rose. It was just perfect.
My sister walked down the aisle. Just as she was about to get to her handsome groom, she stopped, handed the flower to my Mom, and gave her a big hug. (We had kept this a secret so my Mom sure was surprised!) This was simple, yet perfect for our family. My Mom has since dried the rose and it lays on her vanity. I think it was the perfect fit for our situation.
What is the best way for you to remember those lost loved ones on your wedding day? Here are a few ideas…