How do I politely say “No Kids”? Can I put it on my wedding invites? Or my wedding website? Or just word of mouth? Is it even okay for me to want no kids? Does that make me a Grinch?
No! It does not make you a Grinch! (And you are not alone.) After all, this is YOUR big day. Before I get into the details of how to politely decline the children, I do have a funny story to share. I had THE CUTEST flower girl at one of our weddings. This five year old had the most angelic little white utu dress on with her blonde locks pulled back in a big pink bow. ADORABLE. So, I am in the middle of helping a guest & out of the corner of my eye, I see her tiny little self up on her tip toes, sticking her little finger right into the bottom tier of ….. THE CAKE…. the very tall, perfectly iced, beautiful, beautiful wedding cake. By the time I got over there, she had licked her little finger and was going in for round two. In her defense, I did say, “if you do a GREAT job walking down that aisle and smile REAL big, I will give you a big piece of cake.” So, she definitely had CAKE on her mind. Thinking on my feet, I quickly pulled out the flowers that the florist had perfectly placed into the cake, turned the cake around (finger hole in back) and stuck those flowers right back in. PROBLEM SOLVED.
Fast forward forty five minutes later and the Bride & Groom are cutting the cake. After the pictures are all taken and toasts are all read, the bride leans over to me and whispers “Was that a finger hole in my cake?”…. “YEP… but I promise it will make for the best story later.” She laughed. Thank goodness.
Now, onto some HOW-TOS:
1. Do not print “No Kids” or “Adult Only Reception” on the invite. Instead, address the invite to who you are inviting. For Example, “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith” instead of “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & Family” or “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, Sarah & Mike Smith”
2. In addition, you can speak with family and close friends and ask then to help spread the word.
3. Put it on your wedding website!
But what do I do if my Bridesmaid is traveling and has kids she doesn’t want to leave? An on-site babysitter! You can provide a babysitter, a pizza, some crayons, and a few movies… problem solved!
After I have asked for no kids, is it then acceptable to have a flower girl and ring bearer there? YEP :) Absolutely!! You can even have them join the babysitter after the ceremony (if you would like).